When is to old actually to old?

     Ive heard this topic several times not only on my time line (twitter), but also in other blogs, on  facebook, myspace, BGC forums, some of everywhere. The biggest issue with this question is the fact that this is actually an issue. I've dated older and younger guys. Me myself, I prefer younger guys, and it's not for reasons that most people may think. It's a whole new ballgame when you're in it for the right reasons.

     I used to think that it was strange that I wasn't attracted to older men. For some reason the though of someone telling me what to do, thinking that they knew more than me, or even feeling a sense of control because of the age bracket bothered me. I've dated older men. Men anywhere from four, to twenty-four years older than me have had a chance to get to know me on a level a little past friendship. It's all the same to me with them all. Either they're telling me what I need to do with my life, or what I'm not doing right. The fact that I've never had a father, and that I don't need or want one now, made this an impossible hurdle to jump.

     Now loads of people think the reason for older people wanting a younger mate has something to do with the person being inexperienced in life. Contrary to that belief in most cases it's not that reason at all. Younger people haven't been tainted by bad experiences, or heartbreak. For the most part they're full of new energy, ready to explore the world, and more willing to trust something new easier than others that have been hurt in past relationships. They also appreciate what you've been  through in life, instead of trying to tell you what you need to do to fix yours. Young minds in my opinion offer new adventure, fresh ideas, and an eagerness to belong to something meaningful. All in all I think younger beings add that much needed excitement to your life.

     Now there is a downfall. In most situations, younger people have much less to offer, and at times can be a bit of a handful. They have all this energy, and sometimes it can be overwhelming. But what's life with out a challenge right? The last couple of people that I've dated have been younger than me. The very last person that I met is 11 years younger than me. But is this really to big of an age gap. I don't think so.

     My last love interest didn't start out that way at all. It started out as a friendly chatting situation, and over several months turned into something completely different. It's kinda funny though being that neither of us ever knew where the whole thing was going, but decided to let it flow in the direction that our emotions led it. It turned into something beautiful, unexpected, but beautiful. I at one point found myself asking the question, "isn't he too young." But once I thought about the reasons why it happened, it no longer bothered me. After all, age is only a number.

     So I guess the real question to it all is whose job is it to determine what is acceptable, and what's not. Ultimately I think it's up to the two individuals in the relationship. Whether you, the outsider, think that it's strange that an older person is dating a younger person isn't really your business. Yes you are free to have your opinion about subjects, events, or  general, day to day things that you may encounter. But in the end your opinion counts for nothing other than your own sense of self worth, or involvement in things deemed worthy of discussion.In the end I say if the two are happy, then let them be. What are your thoughts on the matter. 

Tray.